When we attended family functions, I would see my mother being criticized heavily by others for marrying a man from a different religion. Hardly anyone was supportive. I started believing she must have been wrong until one day when I overheard someone saying to my mother, “Women are weak and they need a man’s support. You are not doing justice to your kids. Just remarry.” I was shocked because at no point in my life had I observed my mother displaying any kind of weakness. For me, she was and is the strongest woman I know. At that moment I tore myself away from what society had been feeding me. I realized it was all a farce.
As a single parent, my mother handled me, my brother and herself with grace and integrity. All this, in a state like Uttar Pradesh where single women are frowned upon. I knew that Disney’s story of the ‘damsel in distress’ being saved by the Prince Charming was a futile fantasy. I learnt from my mother that in the real world only I could save myself. I think every girl should be taught the lesson that she must be her own hero and saviour. Even Disney is rewriting the tried and tested script with films like Tangled and Brave which feature gutsy heroines.
To consider women weak is ridiculous. Just look at history–Margaret Thatcher, Golda Meir, Indira Gandhi were just as quick to go to war as the next guy when force appeared to be the answer. Accomplished women abound in all areas of life, and for all the odds they encountered they fought hard and reached the pinnacles of success. Marissa Mayer, Indra Nooyi, Sania Mirza, and Oprah Winfrey are a few names that come to mind.
I think every girl should be taught the lesson that she must be her own hero and saviour. I would like to see equal representation of both genders in every walk of life without any comparison. Physiological differences don’t play that significant a role.
Today, as women are flooding into the workplace and becoming more career-oriented, many more men are becoming caregivers and staying back as home as the primary parent. The roles once seen as fit only for women are viewed as fit for men. And vice versa. The world is changing, and for the better.
I decided to get involved with Girl Rising because I strongly believe in girls' education. I would first and foremost propagate among others the importance of education and how it is the only road that will take women towards success. Now, the onus is on the media too to help promote powerful images of women instead of always painting them as oppressed.
All women need is encouragement and that alone will empower them to reach great heights.
Story by Taruka Srivastava: Credits to Girl Rising